Dear Homosexual Friends,

The first thing I want to say is, I’m sorry. I’m sorry we got off on the wrong foot. I might have given you the impression that – because of your sexuality – I dislike you, I’m afraid of you, or I think I’m better than you. If my passion for this subject has given you that impression, I am truly sorry because nothing could be further from the truth!


The truth is, I love you. I just wish there was a way for us to talk about the subject of homosexuality in a way that doesn’t give you the impression that, by rejecting homosexuality, I’m rejecting you. I don’t want to reject you at all. I believe you are more than your sexuality. I believe you are precious, valuable, and loved by God.

I hope someday you will give me, and my fellow Christians, an opportunity to discuss this issue with you. We don’t always have the right words to say. Sometimes we’re extremely insensitive. We don’t mean to be; we just don’t know what it’s like to walk in your shoes. Maybe you can help us with that. Maybe you can help us understand your heart, your mind, and your struggles.

I want you to understand I don’t think you are sinning because you feel the way you feel. I can’t explain to you why you feel that way, or even if there will come a day where you will feel differently. But, I can tell you I have struggles, too. I’m sorry if I ever gave you the impression that I thought I’m somehow more righteous than you because I don’t struggle in the same way you struggle.

I know you have a lot of pressure to give into your temptations; you may have already given in. I have a lot of pressure to give into my temptations, too. And far too often I have given into my temptations. But I want you to know there is hope. There is Someone who continually helps me with my struggles and He can help you, too.

Jesus didn’t come just to say, “Stop sinning!” I’m sorry if that’s all you’ve ever heard us say. Jesus came to help us with the problem of sin. He can take away our sin and help us learn to say, “No” to our temptations.

I don’t know if you know this or not, but the apostle Paul wrote a letter to some former homosexuals. When you get a chance, read 1 Corinthians 6:9-11. Jesus helped those folks overcome homosexuality, and He can help you, too. That’s the main thing I want you to know…that Jesus can help you, like He helps me.

I love you and God loves you,

Wes McAdams

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